Everybody say it with me: GOOD RIDDANCE 2019!
You will not be missed. This past decade has mostly been horrendous to so many people. We won’t even speak of the year that was 2016. You might feel like the best way to start off the new year and decade is to set a ton of New Year’s resolutions (which let’s be honest, are usually unrealistic and abandoned by mid-February). This year, I challenge you badass people not to pursue resolutions.
When we look at time through the lens of a year, we think it is short. But really, we are talking about 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 (or 366 on leap years) days, 8760 hours, 525600 minutes, or 31536000 seconds. A year contains much more time than we think. That’s often why we struggle to keep our New Year’s resolutions. We think we are dedicating only a snip-it of time when the reality is much more overwhelming. According to studies, 80%, YES EIGHTY PERCENT, of resolutions fail by the second week in February. The odds are generally against you succeeding.
I challenge you to change your frame of mind.
Every single day is a chance to start a new goal, and often our short term goals are more attainable. If we want to change our lives, then we have to focus on the sustainable steps instead of the whole picture.
Do you want to get healthier through exercise? Make a weekly goal of going to the gym 2 or 3 days this week. At week’s end, you set the same goal again. Eventually, after you succeed many times, you can bump your time frame up to 2 weeks then 1 month then 2 months, etc. Do you want to journal more? Do the same thing. Start with how many times you’d like to write this week. Then reevaluate at the end of the week. Either keep your goal or alter it to what you can manage. Do you want to learn a new skill? Take a week to brainstorm what the skill is. The next week, look into classes or tutorials. Examine how much time you can dedicate to this. Then, make out a schedule starting with a week.
You get the idea.
When we start breaking down our goals into steps instead of making these unattainable resolutions, we are able to change our lives for the better. We stop thinking of ourselves as trying to do something and start thinking of ourselves as already doing it.
Give up on the resolutions.
Instead, start making a real change!