Debunking Bisexuality Myths

This week on Love, Geeky Girl, I broke down the myths surrounding bisexuality. I have known that I was bisexual since I was 9 or 10 years old. However, it took me well over a decade to come out to family and most friends. A lot of these myths contributed to 1) my self-hatred, and 2) my hesitancy in coming out. It took a long time for me to be comfortable in my own skin as a proud bisexual, demiromantic, GNC person. I hope that you take the time to read these myths and truths. Share it with the people who don’t understand or would like further clarification on the identity. And, drop any questions you have in the comments section. I am happy to answer anything that isn’t hostile, hate-driven, or derogatory. All my love, Dani

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

Identifying as a bisexual person comes with a plethora of misconceptions about who I am, what I do, and how my identity impacts my queerness. Nearly every bisexual has to fight against these false ideas about who they are. What makes it even more frustrating is having to answer the same questions over and over again. In order to educate others and decrease the need for explanations, I decided to compile a list of some of the most common bisexuality myths and break them down. Here we go!

Myth: Bisexuality is just a phase before coming out as gay or straight.

Truth: Bisexuality is a completely valid identity. It is not a stepping stone. It is not a way station. People in same gender relationships aren’t gay. People in different gender relationships aren’t straight. Bisexuals exist. Period. 

In the past, folks may have come out as bi…

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I Won’t Be A Well-Behaved Woman

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

If you were assigned female at birth or you identify/present as a woman, you are told on a daily basis what you are expected to be. You need to be soft spoken, mild mannered, friendly to everyone. Have the perfect body. Cross your legs. Don’t take up too much space. Smile more. Put others’ needs before your own. Don’t demand too much. Get married and settle down with a nice man. Procreate. Basically be the perfectly well-behaved woman. We’ve heard it all before.

The truth is that I will never be what society wants me to be. 

I am too tall. I don’t have flawless skin. I’m too curvy and weigh too much. I like comic books, video games, pop culture. I’m too nerdy for my own good. I don’t want the white picket fence. I’m not straight; I’m bi. I’m certainly gender nonconforming. I hate dresses…

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11 Things That I Don’t Understand (But Would Like To)

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