Originally posted on Love, Geeky Girl By: Dani Kessel Are you the queen/king of your own style? I know that I am! My personal fashion sense is perpetually stuck in a blend of the eighties rocker, nineties grunge, and noughties punk styles. I’ve always swayed towards edgier and harder looks. I enjoy the gender-expanding, feminist, and … Continue reading NINE WARDROBE ESSENTIALS FOR THE GRUNGE STYLE

Why The "Varsity Blues" Sentencings Send the Wrong Message

Originally posted on Love, Geeky Girl By: Dani Kessel We were all outraged, disheartened, and bewildered when news broke of the 2019 college admittance scandal. William ‘Rick’ Singer, CEO of the college and life counseling company Key, facilitated major test and admissions fraud by paying schools, coaches, and proctors to change records for parents who wished … Continue reading Why The "Varsity Blues" Sentencings Send the Wrong Message

The INFJ Door Slam

Originally posted on Love, Geeky Girl By: Dani Kessel If you’ve ever studied the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), you’ll know people fall into 16 personality types.  These personality types don’t cover all aspects of a person; however, they do help people understand themselves, their behavioral tendencies, and the world surrounding them. Everyone’s categorized into extraversion or introversion, … Continue reading The INFJ Door Slam

Top Broadway Songs About Embracing Yourself and Your Dreams

Originally posted on Love, Geeky Girl By: Dani Kessel Everyone understands the world through their own unique lens. I relate to most things–emotions, events, experiences–through theatre and music. It helps me process the world around me. Many others, particularly those with an affinity for the arts, also find immense value in music, lyrics, and performance musicality. … Continue reading Top Broadway Songs About Embracing Yourself and Your Dreams

Fun Ways To Spice Up Your Valentine’s Day Sex *Mature Content*

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By: Dani Kessel

[Warning: mature content ahead]

If you’re looking for the perfect way to spice up your sex on Valentine’s Day, you’ve come to the right place! Sex can become a routine when you live with your partner. It can also become a lot of the same thing when you are in a long-term relationship. Celebrating V-Day with your boo this week? This might be a fun opportunity to try something different.

Here are some of the best ways you can mix things up.

A sensual massage

If you are looking to give your partner extra attention, light some candles, put on some mood music, oil them up, and give them a sensual massage. Touch like this increases oxytocin levels and creates intimacy between partners. This act of giving will make your partner feel special and possibly get them in the mood for some romantic sexy time afterwards. In…

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Bibliophile: My Love Of Books

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By: Dani Kessel

Anyone who knows me knows that I am an avid bibliophile. 

Bibliophile: a lover (phile) of books (biblio)

I have a huge collection of books. I’m regularly checking out other books from the library. I have a large purse solely for the purpose of being able to carry books with me everywhere. You’ll find me reading most of my free moments, particularly in doctors office waiting rooms, while waiting for my partner to get off work, at any family gatherings I choose to go to. My partner even got me a kindle this past Christmas so I wouldn’t have to carry large, heavy books around with me everywhere.

I devoured books from the second I could read. Even before then, I’d beg my brother, sisters, mom, dad, neighbors, daycare providers–basically anybody who would listen–to read to me. One of my proudest moments was the day I got…

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Coping With Body Image Issues Post-Surgery

This is probably one of the most vulnerable pieces I have written in a long time. I get extremely real about how my surgery and disability has affected my self-confidence recently. I don’t often talk about the struggles I have with my body-image. If you are also struggling, just know that you aren’t alone.

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

I’ve been struggling with my body image lately. I’m always hesitant to talk about my body image issues since I have been a mentor and role model to teenagers and my kiddo nieces. I have had to encourage them to improve their self-esteem, especially their body images. I feel like a hypocrite. I am going to be really vulnerable about these struggles I’ve tried to hide.

6 months ago, I had major spine surgery. I suffer from Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, CRPS, and had to have a spinal cord stimulator, SCS, implanted in my body to mitigate this nerve disorder. The majority of my problems post-surgery have been the grueling physical recovery and adjusting to the stimuli of having an SCS. There has also been lingering pain at the surgery sites and the still-present problems caused by CRPS. (Unfortunately, the SCS does not take the CRPS away…

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70 Ways To Say “I Love You”

My favorite way to say I love you is “I made you tacos.” Tacos are delicious and a wonderful sign of love. What is your favorite way to say I love you?

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By: Dani Kessel

With Valentine’s Day and Galentine’s Day coming up, I thought I would put together a love themed post for your enjoyment! 

While some will choose to focus on romance this time of the year, I truly believe that soulmates are much more than romantic lovers. I think that there are people in our lives who we are drawn to–people who will play an important role in our story. This can be romantic partners, best friends, family members. These are our soulmates. Love for these people should be expressed every single day of the year. These two holidays are a great time to show even more love for your friends and your partners though. 

If you are wanting to express your love but not overuse one phrase, here are 70 ways to say I love you. These can be applied to a variety of people depending on your…

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16 Things Every Teen Should Know About Sex, Sexuality, And Virginity

It is extremely important that we teach teens about sex, sexuality, and virginity. This is the best way to fight against teenage pregnancy and high STI rates.

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By: Dani Kessel

Sex, virginity, and sexuality are topics which every teenager should know about. As they grow into young adulthood, teenagers will encounter these kinds of situations. Unfortunately, as I learned while mentoring young teenage girls, many schools don’t properly educate them on these matters. Without the proper education, teens may feel unprepared for handling these issues. This article will take an inclusive, sex-positive, science-based, non-judgmental approach when breaking down these things.

If you are a parent struggling with what your teen should know, please take the time to read through these 16 things every teenager should know about sex, virginity, and sexuality and become comfortable with the idea of talking to your kid on these matters.

If you are a teenager who hasn’t been taught about sex, virginity, and sexuality, have no fear. This list will break down things you really need to know, and there are a…

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Why We Should Embrace Platonic Love

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

I have never particularly understood the hesitation in expressing love of all forms. 

Our society puts such a heavy focus on romantic and sexual love, but why can’t we express platonic love? I don’t get the stigma towards developing close bonds with folks you aren’t romantically/sexually intertwined with. Best friends fill such a huge position in folks’ lives, and they should be recognized for their amazingness!

Friends deserve to share real connections with one another. Intimacy isn’t just sexual. Intimacy includes talking about meaningful topics, expressing vulnerability, hugging each other, supporting each other, spending quality time together, discussing shared interests. I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing those things. Friends should lift each other up and share in each other’s accomplishments, celebrations, missteps, fears, hesitations, etc. 

We should embrace platonic love to its fullest.

Take time out of your day to see your friends. 


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