Bibliophile: My Love Of Books

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

Anyone who knows me knows that I am an avid bibliophile. 

Bibliophile: a lover (phile) of books (biblio)

I have a huge collection of books. I’m regularly checking out other books from the library. I have a large purse solely for the purpose of being able to carry books with me everywhere. You’ll find me reading most of my free moments, particularly in doctors office waiting rooms, while waiting for my partner to get off work, at any family gatherings I choose to go to. My partner even got me a kindle this past Christmas so I wouldn’t have to carry large, heavy books around with me everywhere.

I devoured books from the second I could read. Even before then, I’d beg my brother, sisters, mom, dad, neighbors, daycare providers–basically anybody who would listen–to read to me. One of my proudest moments was the day I got…

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70 Ways To Say “I Love You”

My favorite way to say I love you is “I made you tacos.” Tacos are delicious and a wonderful sign of love. What is your favorite way to say I love you?

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

With Valentine’s Day and Galentine’s Day coming up, I thought I would put together a love themed post for your enjoyment! 

While some will choose to focus on romance this time of the year, I truly believe that soulmates are much more than romantic lovers. I think that there are people in our lives who we are drawn to–people who will play an important role in our story. This can be romantic partners, best friends, family members. These are our soulmates. Love for these people should be expressed every single day of the year. These two holidays are a great time to show even more love for your friends and your partners though. 

If you are wanting to express your love but not overuse one phrase, here are 70 ways to say I love you. These can be applied to a variety of people depending on your…

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16 Things Every Teen Should Know About Sex, Sexuality, And Virginity

It is extremely important that we teach teens about sex, sexuality, and virginity. This is the best way to fight against teenage pregnancy and high STI rates.

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

Sex, virginity, and sexuality are topics which every teenager should know about. As they grow into young adulthood, teenagers will encounter these kinds of situations. Unfortunately, as I learned while mentoring young teenage girls, many schools don’t properly educate them on these matters. Without the proper education, teens may feel unprepared for handling these issues. This article will take an inclusive, sex-positive, science-based, non-judgmental approach when breaking down these things.

If you are a parent struggling with what your teen should know, please take the time to read through these 16 things every teenager should know about sex, virginity, and sexuality and become comfortable with the idea of talking to your kid on these matters.

If you are a teenager who hasn’t been taught about sex, virginity, and sexuality, have no fear. This list will break down things you really need to know, and there are a…

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Why We Should Embrace Platonic Love

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

I have never particularly understood the hesitation in expressing love of all forms. 

Our society puts such a heavy focus on romantic and sexual love, but why can’t we express platonic love? I don’t get the stigma towards developing close bonds with folks you aren’t romantically/sexually intertwined with. Best friends fill such a huge position in folks’ lives, and they should be recognized for their amazingness!

Friends deserve to share real connections with one another. Intimacy isn’t just sexual. Intimacy includes talking about meaningful topics, expressing vulnerability, hugging each other, supporting each other, spending quality time together, discussing shared interests. I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing those things. Friends should lift each other up and share in each other’s accomplishments, celebrations, missteps, fears, hesitations, etc. 

We should embrace platonic love to its fullest.

Take time out of your day to see your friends. 

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Debunking Bisexuality Myths

This week on Love, Geeky Girl, I broke down the myths surrounding bisexuality. I have known that I was bisexual since I was 9 or 10 years old. However, it took me well over a decade to come out to family and most friends. A lot of these myths contributed to 1) my self-hatred, and 2) my hesitancy in coming out. It took a long time for me to be comfortable in my own skin as a proud bisexual, demiromantic, GNC person. I hope that you take the time to read these myths and truths. Share it with the people who don’t understand or would like further clarification on the identity. And, drop any questions you have in the comments section. I am happy to answer anything that isn’t hostile, hate-driven, or derogatory. All my love, Dani

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

Identifying as a bisexual person comes with a plethora of misconceptions about who I am, what I do, and how my identity impacts my queerness. Nearly every bisexual has to fight against these false ideas about who they are. What makes it even more frustrating is having to answer the same questions over and over again. In order to educate others and decrease the need for explanations, I decided to compile a list of some of the most common bisexuality myths and break them down. Here we go!

Myth: Bisexuality is just a phase before coming out as gay or straight.

Truth: Bisexuality is a completely valid identity. It is not a stepping stone. It is not a way station. People in same gender relationships aren’t gay. People in different gender relationships aren’t straight. Bisexuals exist. Period. 

In the past, folks may have come out as bi…

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Changes You Make In A Long Distance Relationship

Love, Geeky Girl

By: Dani Kessel

Before I married my partner, we spent three and a half years in long distance. We were told a million times over that our relationship would fail because “long distance never works.” We are living proof that isn’t entirely true though. Long distance is hard. It isn’t for the faint of heart. But, just like any other relationship dynamic, people grow and adapt to make things work. There are many positive internal changes you make when entering into a long distance relationship.

You learn to communicate effectively.

Being apart from each other means you have to make the most of your communication. Coordinating schedules, planning visits, arranging romantic and intimate time, and explicitly expressing your needs are all things you get in the habit of doing. When you speak, you are more inclined to have meaningful conversations. This skill translates well into all other relationships in your…

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