The Shopping Cart Theory Is Ableism

The Shopping Cart Theory has been floating around the internet and social media. There is a theory that a shopping cart/trolley can determine your character and whether a person can self-govern. The theory says that, because there is no reward or mandate or punishment for returning carts, people who return the cart to the corral … Continue reading The Shopping Cart Theory Is Ableism

25 Affirmations to Get You Through a Hard Time

Originally posted on Love, Geeky Girl By: Dani Kessel Life is hard. It just is. I’m not going to sugar coat it. I won’t pretend things are all okay when that’s just not the truth. Sometimes, I have to tell myself positive affirmations to keep me going. In case you’re struggling and need to hear those … Continue reading 25 Affirmations to Get You Through a Hard Time

Coping With Body Image Issues Post-Surgery

This is probably one of the most vulnerable pieces I have written in a long time. I get extremely real about how my surgery and disability has affected my self-confidence recently. I don’t often talk about the struggles I have with my body-image. If you are also struggling, just know that you aren’t alone.

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By: Dani Kessel

I’ve been struggling with my body image lately. I’m always hesitant to talk about my body image issues since I have been a mentor and role model to teenagers and my kiddo nieces. I have had to encourage them to improve their self-esteem, especially their body images. I feel like a hypocrite. I am going to be really vulnerable about these struggles I’ve tried to hide.

6 months ago, I had major spine surgery. I suffer from Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, CRPS, and had to have a spinal cord stimulator, SCS, implanted in my body to mitigate this nerve disorder. The majority of my problems post-surgery have been the grueling physical recovery and adjusting to the stimuli of having an SCS. There has also been lingering pain at the surgery sites and the still-present problems caused by CRPS. (Unfortunately, the SCS does not take the CRPS away…

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Better Understanding Disability Using The Spoon Theory

I’m officially a contributing guest writer on Love, Geeky Girl. I will be reblogging the posts on here so my subscribers can read my articles. If you like what you read, go subscribe to Love, Geeky Girl because there is lots of great content on that site as well. Feel free to comment with any topics you want me to write about!

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By: Dani Kessel

Hi everyone. My name is Dani. I suffer from Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome, limited mobility, and at least 5 different diagnosable mental illnesses. This affects my daily life resulting in a different normal than those who are ablebodied and neurotypical. I am a spoonie.

Spoon·ie    noun


Plural noun: spoonies

  • Someone suffering from disability and chronic illness/es that can be explained with the spoon theory.

“my sister calls herself a spoonie”

The spoon theory is a metaphor created by Christine Miserandino for the energy and ability limitations that disabled folks live with. The idea is this: 

From waking up to falling asleep, every task throughout the day takes a certain number of spoons. Ablebodied, neurotypical folks have a nearly infinite number of spoons, so they don’t have to think about where their spoons go. Disabled folks have a finite number of spoons though…

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